Priorities are a much publicized and considered topic where it is difficult to get beyond the colloquial and thoughtless one-liners and supposed common knowledge. An interesting investigation would be to look at the way in which priorities change as apparent freedom to choose increases.
The concept of proper prioritization can be as simple as “family first” or “safety first”. Recent personal experiences have led me to the conclusion that even if family considerations are already first, there still needs to be prioritization. There seems to be an even greater need to prioritize in a situation where much time is already devoted to the family.
Average days are more than planned out with many must-dos. It is the amount of time that these consume that dictates how much thought must be placed on active prioritization. An employee or non-workforce parent has many responsibilities consuming much time. The hours which he actually controls thus expressing his supposed priorities are limited. What he focuses on at work may be in his best interests but this often excludes a bigger consideration. There is an apparent contradiction in people who use the “family first” expression as both parents go to work and pay a caretaker or daycare the equivalent of one of their salaries.
These individuals may be taking the easy way out. Those who don’t have their days planned out in a mundane way which meets almost all the standards of social conformity have more thinking to do. Ample discretionary time often leads to scrutiny of usage. Having ones priorities straight and living in a manner that creates the greatest utility for the individual not only nurtures an incredible life but also innoculates ones conscience from the undoubtedly jealous judgements of mainstream onlookers.
What may sound or look like the disapproval of others is never easy to bear. Confidence in the fact that your priorities are set correctly for YOU makes it a whole lot easier.
*he is used throughout but was chosen as the shorter of the two to represent both genders